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Friday, June 12, 2009

Living with Critics

How do you live with critics?

When someone is being critical of you, what quality or virtue do you need to develop to have peace of mind?

Tolerance, forgiveness, or assertiveness for defense?

I think I vote for tolerance, after trying diplomacy to come to a mutual understanding, which failed. Yet, tolerance doesn't really help one deal with the person in question.

Perhaps forgiveness would be the most lofty of choices, but if they continue in their criticisms and attacks, and do not ask for forgiveness, then is it even truly possible to completely forgive someone? How can you forgive an on-going attack? Shouldn't it end before you forgive? Is is even possible to continue forgiveness perpetually while in the process of being attacked?

Assertiveness to defend one's self is the most obvious answer for me, but the defense is really useless. Why should you have to defend yourself for your personal views, or for something you did not do?

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When someone writes there will always be critics either constructive or derogatory. People criticize for different reasons the same way that writers write for various reasons too. If we receive an attack that is totally out of context, the best remedy is just to ignore it by just thanking and blessing the attacker. That way he will be caught off track and chances are, his true motives for the unwarranted attack will be revealed. We can never please everybody. We write targeting a certain niche in the blog world. If the target niche reads our posts, then our purpose have been achieved. Thanks for the post. God bless you always.

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Mel Avila Alarilla : Jun 13, 2009 4:45:00 PM

Thanks for your wise words Mel. Thank and bless the attacker... simple, yet very effective advice. God bless you!

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Sandra Cobb : Jun 14, 2009 2:07:00 AM

Where is Peace to be found?

"Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding."
~ Albert Einstein

Wonder what Einstein and other such philosophers might have said about those who refuse to communicate - refuse to attempt understanding?

For instance, how can one live in peace, if their neighbor attacks them - if such a neighbor has no desire to understand - then, where is peace to be found?

Is the peaceful neighbor destined to martyrdom... in order to preserve peace?

Yes, the faithful can have peace in their hearts... that is not in question.

True peace of community, nation and world... that is the question.

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Sunday, May 17, 2009

Back in the writer's saddle

What is it that makes some of us bloggers, especially myself, take a month or two off now and again? It isn't something I plan to do, but it inevitably happens a couple of times a year.

Perhaps it's because I go through periods of time when I would do more ranting and venting than is really necessary, and I worry about offending my readers, or saying something that I might regret in hindsight.

Sometimes it's just because my part-time job is wearing me down and I am so tired that I don't have the will to write... (even though my doc says I shouldn't work, the dear folks at the SS office feel differently, and so I do what I can).

Sometimes it's because of the financial stress which takes over my mind and my life... living a month away from homelessness on a month to month basis can wear you down quickly.

Whatever it is, I am now back with a clear mind, or at least a clearer mind than I have had the past two months.

Writing is good therapy, so I'm throwing away my inhibitions and humiliation over my situation... wish me luck!

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